Let’s face it. Relationships aren’t exactly easy. But some are more difficult than others.
Sometimes in life you’re faced with people who don’t accept your truth—people who belittle you and reject your authentic light. You might start to ask yourself: Do I need to convince them that it’s okay for me to be who I am? If I dim my inner light, will I stop drawing all this negative attention?
No! You can work for decades to try to change other people and all you will accomplish is to eventually lose sight of your own happiness. Hiding the light inside you will only snuff it out and lead you back to the darkness you rose from.
To live a genuine and fulfilling life, you must not hide your passion or your heart. And, most certainly, you must never hide your authenticity.
So what do you do?
Break free? I know what you’re thinking, but hear me out first. I’m not suggesting that you ban people from your life or turn your back on people you love. What I am suggesting is that you distance yourself from their negative energy.
You can start by refusing to expend your own energy trying to change them or influence them by manipulation, confrontation, or force. Toss that old way of thinking out. You can’t “make” someone do, feel, or think anything. That is not your job. Your job is to maximize your wellbeing so you naturally radiate light and inspiration, no effort or force required. Let others choose whether they will follow your footsteps toward a fulfilled and peaceful life, and accept them exactly where they’re at.
The most profound way to break away from a toxic relationship is to refuse to let another person’s negative words infiltrate your self-talk or affect your attitude. Choose not to accept responsibility for others’ feelings. Those feelings are not yours and you have no control over them; accepting responsibility for them means you’ve given control of your own feelings—and the choices that follow—to someone else.
If a person reacts negatively to your happiness and inner light, don’t “protect” them by hiding who you are. Allow them to feel uncomfortable. You aren’t the cause of their discomfort. What they’re feeling is their own soul calling them to a happy and fulfilled life; you’re merely a catalyst…and, in some cases, a scapegoat When you feel tempted to keep joy to yourself or smother your excitement around certain people, remember that changing who you are to keep them comfortable will not only rob you of true happiness, it will rob them of an opportunity to grow.
Chances are you know when a relationship is toxic in your life. But if you’re not sure, close your eyes and think about how you feel when you’re with that person. If it’s anything less than encouraged, empowered, and supported, then it’s time to set yourself free.
Every day and in every relationship, choose a direction that is consistent with the person you are and the person you want to become. You will inspire and attract others who are traveling the same happy trail.